Valentine’s Day is coming up February 14th. But, before that, Tu B’Shevat begins on January 24th. On Valentine’s Day, people embrace their loved ones or are reminded that they may not be in a romantic relationship. This day often makes people focus on the end goal of being in a relationship. Some even jump into a relationship too fast or with someone they shouldn’t just to be able to say they are not single on this big day in February.

Tu B’Shevat is a celebration of the trees. Now, this may not seem related but wait. Here it is. When you plant a tree, it does not become a 50 foot oak tree overnight. You need to plant the seed, cover it with dirt, water it regularly and tend to it. Then, many days, months or years later, you have the tree you had hoped for.

I think you’re getting the picture here. Don’t expect miracles or fireworks or immediate lasting love in two days or two dates. It can happen, but more often, you need to plant the seed of a relationship, nurture it, invest time in it and be patient in order to see it blossom. Then, once you reach that goal of being in a relationship, you still must care for it, as you would a tree or plant to keep it healthy.